The Cuckold Experience
The Cuckold Husband / Hotwife Experience
Dr. Cherry Lee, Ph. D.
Dr. Lee has lectured and published in the area of analytical psychology, and she developed one of the first electronic systems for the quantitative analysis human behavior.
She started her counseling work by leading gestalt therapy groups. Apart from this, her several decades of professional experience has been largely limited to urban, affluent, female subjects.
What Has Spurred the Cuckold Husband/Hotwife Experience?
Although motivations for the cuckold husband/hotwife experience actually cover a wide spectrum, here we’ll cover a few of the most common.
First, the husband may suspect that his wife is becoming interested in experiencing sex with someone else. He may value the relationship and not want her to jeopardize things because of the deceit and secrecy that normally accompany affairs. In short, he wants to know about and approve any extramarital sex, and even have some control over it. The cuckold husband wants his wife’s sexual encounters with men to be for sex only, with no marriage-threatening emotional entanglements. In this respect it is similar to attitudes about extramarital sex now held by many of the younger people in Japan.
The mass media often cast beautiful and desirable women as both sexy and prone to sexual liaisons. Whereas this type of woman used to be considered a fallen woman or even a whore, in some minds she now seems to represent an enticing new standard.
Some women used to brag about how they could avoid marital sex, and despite the views of some radical feminists, such women are now suspected as being man-haters, latent lesbians, or simply having personal problems. Now, many women find a certain excitement in being viewed as sexually liberated. For some, especially some older women, there may be a certain ego gratification in still being viewed as being sexually desirable — even discretely promiscuous. While holding to the security of her primary relationship, she may revel in experiencing sexual freedom.
At the same time, most cuckold husbands want their wives to appear ladylike on the surface, in public. But, among select men, they want they wives to be known as and not hung up about sex, or even great lays. Although this type of wife was once considered a threat to husbands — and it still is to most — the more psychologically secure males believe that a healthy and well-adjusted and desirable woman enjoys sex, and has the right to be just as open about it as men.
Plus, the husbands involved may pride themselves in being secure enough to handle a hotwife. He may even brag to another man about how his wife loves sex and can’t get enough, which, not coincidentally, may be very much in contrast to the attitude of that man’s wife. Implicit in the comment is that the husband has no problem with this, and that, in fact, he thinks his wife is pretty hot. In many cases sex within the marriage has waned or grown dull and routine and the husband may get vicarious excitement in seeing , sometimes literally his wife remain sexually active.
Many women realize that other women regularly enjoy good sex, and although many wives have grown ambivalent about sex within their marriages and are reluctant to try new things, these barriers frequently fall with the expectations of new sexual partners. With new men there appears to be unspoken desire to not disappoint and to be good in bed.
Even though she may have started to have doubts about her sexual desirability, as a hotwife she will probably find that men are again interested in her. For some women this can constitute a kind of new sexual awakening.
This transformation can be quite disturbing for a husband who isn’t prepared to handle it. These issues are discussed in much more detail in the next chapter.
In some circles a woman may wear a bold ankle bracelet on her right ankle to tell men in the know that she’s a hotwife. At the same time, most women who wear ankle bracelets do so without realizing the possible significance. Once seen as a hotwife, she may flirt with select men, making it clear that she’s available for sex.
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